This post deals with the value of having a live-in partner, caregiver or helper. If that is not your current situation feel free to ignore. I’m 73 years old, Keith will soon be 74. Some would say that’s not “old” but to me, it is—in many ways I didn’t anticipate. I expected my limbs would […]
Intimacy & Aging Blog
On this blog, I share posts and resources on how aging affects intimacy, and our continued journey to retain and redefine intimacy after impotence. Click here for the introduction to the blog.
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Standing in the corner of our bedroom is a life-size cardboard black and white photo of Keith and me at our wedding reception fifty-two years ago. It was a surprise gift given to us at a family reunion, masterminded by our children and niece and nephew, who snagged the original snapshot from our wedding album. […]
It seems a dichotomy that couples who share lovemaking are often hesitant to talk openly with each other about this most intimate act. Keith and I have witnessed this shyness many times when we speak to couples. It’s common for couples to approach us after our presentations and tell us how much they appreciate our […]
I’m posting this essay on both of my blogs; virginialaken.com which deals with MCI and here at hopeforcouples.com on which I write about aging and intimacy. I’m doing so because emotions and love are integral components of both areas—at least in my experience. While I try to be generally optimistic, stoic and hopeful—(certainly, I prefer […]
For the most part when I’ve written about intimacy I’ve referred to physical intimacy —the act of lovemaking. But today I want to write about verbal intimacy, trust intimacy, and truth intimacy. Keith and I have been married for fifty-two years—a lifetime, really. A lifetime of births, deaths, joys, sorrows, adventures, boredom, illness, recovery, arguments, […]
Author’s note: This is an essay I wrote about eight years ago, when I was thinking of publishing a book of essays detailing the continuing journey of how Keith and I were dealing with sexual dysfunction and aging. I have done some editing for clarity only—leaving the honesty of the time, events, and emotions intact. […]